All opinions are NOT created equal

In being an Entrepreneur for almost 10 years. I have encountered many people who always want to give  their opinions on being your own boss or doing one of "those" things. In coaching many people, I found that the opinions of well meaning friends, family and loved ones, stopped them from living the life they wanted to live. Instead, they just lived in misery. That's where the phrase, "misery loves company comes from" Why? Fear. We all trust that the people closest to us know what's best for us. Unfortunately, that is not always the case and what I know especially to be true as I parent. One I might think is best, may not be their dream or their passion.

Someone came to me, upset and said their brother suggested that they should stop doing "that business" because "those things don't work". I ask two questions, "what does your brother do?" The reply was, he works at Applebees. My next question was, "has he ever had a successful business?" The reply was, no. Now we were in a room with countless of us who were successful, don't punch time clocks, have changed lives and support ourselves financially. So my last and important question was, "why are you taking his advice?" The reply was, "because he is family." I know right, you see how crazy that sounds? But we do it all the time. (no disrespect to anyone who works at Applebees:)

I have been my own boss and the freedom that comes with it is priceless. BUT it's not for everybody. There is work to be done! The biggest is working on yourself and your mindset. Many Many don't want to do the work just what's easy. Blame the government, blame parents and just make excuses! Excuses are just well, planned lies."Dani Johnson"

I heard from someone who said NEVER take business advice from someone who has NOT or is NOT doing what you are looking to do. That goes for your personal life as well. No one can tell how to have a great marriage and they are on their 6th marriage. No one can tell you not to go into business for yourself and they have never started one and didn't do the work necessary to succeed and quit. You respect them but not their relationship or business advice. I love this quote from Napoleon Hill~Who said it could not be done? And what victories has he/she to their credit to judge others accurately. As my friend, Soomin Kim says, the opinions of others are typically based on personal experience and are highly biased. 

Stop allowing others who are fearful of making their dreams a reality. Connect with others who have what you want, are doing what you want to do and find the freedom that is yours! What does freedom look like to you? Sit down and write out what it is YOU would like to do, where YOU would like to go. Who would YOU like to help? Freedom is yours! Freedom to be, do and have ALL that you were created for!!!

Peace!

Out with the old, in with the new!

As I was watching the guy replace the old dishwasher and replace it with a new one, it got me to thinking (as if I never stop). Why are we so afraid of change? Being a Military Spouse and just living life in general, things are never certain. I learned from a very wise woman that when you want to be in control, you are really out of control! WOW! 

So everyday I make a conscious effort to accept the things I cannot change and change the things I can...sound familiar...heehee! Stop sweating the small stuff! Worrying also doesn't get me anywhere but having an upset stomach and headache. That's when I feel a little nudge from God as if to say, "when you are done trying to figure it, just let me know. I'll be over here". 

I read this quote this morning, “Seventy per cent of all patients who come to physicians could cure themselves if they got rid of their fears and worries.” ~ Dale Carnegie Ouch! 

Then I read this, “You do not not get stomach ulcers from what you eat. You get ulcers from what is eating you.” ~Dr. Montague

Need I say more about worrying? It does nothing for me! So today I choose to be free as a bird, take care of myself, leaving all my cares and concerns at the foot of my heavenly Father because after all, it's His world, I just live in it!!! Bring on the new!!! 

Peace!